How to date with purpose
Or how I’ve finally written down what I’m looking for in my life partner
Ok, maybe this is not exactly a how to.
But the first step to dating with purpose is to realize that you should date with purpose. Rather than swiping aimlessly based on your whims and gut feeling, what if you actually put forth a set of criteria to assess each person against?
It sounds a bit mechanical, but I came to this realization after asking myself the awkward question: Why am I still single?
Looking back on my dating life, I realized that my problem stems perhaps from not being picky enough. I fall easily for grand gestures and people who are willing to spend time on me, but the relationships inevitably end when I realize way too long into it that this person is actually not able to meet my needs in a relationship. Worse, I sometimes start to convince myself that I don’t need all these things in a relationship, just so I can keep the companionship.
So, after some reflection, I’ve come up with my list
- Emotional Maturity & Empathy
Can we have deep conversations, sharing about our past, our childhood, our family, our deepest thoughts and feelings? Can I openly share without feeling judged? Can we approach conflicting opinions with empathy and without…
