Heartbroken? Try this one exercise to find closure

The path from breakup to acceptance and moving on

Adulting in your 30s
4 min readOct 2, 2023

The reality is, most relationships end for a reason.

Sure, you can become one of those on again, off again couples, breaking up and making up, but is that really a good use of your precious time?

Having recently gone through a breakup, I found that the process that worked for me goes something like this

Grieve -> self reflection -> acceptance -> moving on

The first steps are not necessarily linear. They can happen in any order, and even in loops.

The single most important step to healing about a breakup is to agree on and keep to the No Contact Rule.

There is nothing less productive than to be on your path to acceptance and then be promptly reminded by all the things you loved about them by hearing their voice again, remembering how they look at you, sharing a hug, a kiss, or more.

Once you have put your foot down on no contact, you can then start your healing journey.

Reflect on the good times

One thing I found particularly helpful is to reflect on the relationship — the good and the bad. In particular, let yourself think about all…



Adulting in your 30s

Musings and self reflections of a 30 something who feels like an adult but a kid at the same time