Breaking Up is Hard, Moving On is an Art

Reconnect with your creative self

Adulting in your 30s

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Breaking up is like attempting to dance the cha-cha in roller skates — it’s awkward, it’s challenging, and there’s a high chance you’ll stumble a few times.

In fact, the thought of it was so paralyzing that I’ve found myself overstaying relationships more than once just to avoid the horrible, sould crushing idea of a breakup.

Somehow, I thought that suffering the daily unhappiness was a better option…which in retrospect makes no sense at all.

So, if you’re reading this and have recently broken up with someone or got broken up with (no shame! it happened to me too), I want to first say congratulations.

Congratulations??

Okay, don’t leave. Let me explain.

If a relationship come to a point of break up, it means at least one person no longer wants to try anymore. It takes two to tango.

If you did the breaking up, then I’m excited for your journey of healing and growth.

If you were broken up with, you were unfortunately in a relationship that had become on sided. So, no matter how much you loved your partner, think about whether they’re in fact doing you a favor, to prevent you from spending more time and energy on someone who cannot return the love.

Anyway, back to the art analogies. In the grand ballroom of life, moving on is the graceful waltz that follows the breakup cha-cha. So, lace up those emotional dancing shoes, and let’s waltz through the art of moving on.

Step 1: Dust Off the Disco Ball of Self-Love

The Breakup Disco Ball: Picture your heart as a glittering disco ball. After a breakup, it might look a bit dimmed, but fear not. The first step to moving on is to grab the metaphorical feather duster and start cleaning off the residue of heartbreak.

Self-love is the disco ball’s power source, and it’s time to let it shine.

Chances are you have been so embroiled in the breakup that you haven’t had a chance to take a breather and really take care of yourself. Go to the spa. Book a massage. Read a book. Treat yourself to a theater show.

You deserve it.

Step 2: Unleash Your Inner Breakup DJ

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Adulting in your 30s

Musings and self reflections of a 30 something who feels like an adult but a kid at the same time