Try this magical mindset shift — Ah, the thrill of a date — the excitement, the potential, and of course, the nerve-wracking fear of saying something that makes you want to crawl under the table. If you’re like me, the more attracted you are to someone, the more your eloquence takes an impromptu vacation and you…

The fastest way to determine compatibility — Even as a self proclaimed self aware, therapied-up, mature, sensible, rational adult, when it comes to dating, it’s still hard not to get inside my head. Especially when I actually like the person, then suddenly I’m a useless teenager. Somehow, when I go on a date with someone I’m not…

Sometimes more is not better — Dating can be fun. Dopamine inducing. An ego boost. But it can also be soul sucking. Energy draining. A total drag. If you find yourself in the second category lately, you’re not alone. The Relationship Recess Dating is a roller coaster — mixing butterflies with crushing anxiety. From time to time, we all…

Reconnect with your creative self — Breaking up is like attempting to dance the cha-cha in roller skates — it’s awkward, it’s challenging, and there’s a high chance you’ll stumble a few times. In fact, the thought of it was so paralyzing that I’ve found myself overstaying relationships more than once just to avoid the horrible…

Spoiler: Communication is more important than compatibility — Communication in relationships is like deciphering an ancient scroll — complicated, often confusing, and if you get it wrong, you might accidentally summon a demon (metaphorically, of course). While on a mushroom trip with my ex, I came to the super insightful conclusion that all our problems would be solved…

Because they’re so not worth your time anyway — Where did they go? We’ve all been there — everything is going well, maybe you’ve been on a few dates even — then suddenly, radio silence. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that they got into a car accident or they’re just too busy at work. But let’s cut the melodrama and turn the tables. Why We Make Excuses You’ve…

It’s not what you think — It was exactly two months ago that they started acting weird. The next time we talked, they were saying things like they feel like they can’t be themselves around me and that they would never understand if I were to quit my job to pursue a hobby (something I would…

Are you doing these time wasting things to save money? — Growing up in an Asian family, I was always taught to be frugal. Our family had enough to live reasonably comfortably, but I remember spending weekends clipping coupons and driving from store to store to maximize the stackable coupon savings. We would collect rain-checks if something super on sale was…

Stop making excuses for that person you’re dating — Making excuses for other people We’ve all been there. Maybe they were really swamped at work. Maybe they’re not a texter. Maybe they dropped their phone in the toilet and it stopped working. Turn the tables But in fact, you’ve probably been there yourself, on the giving end of not replying to someone’s text. Why didn’t you reply? …